Hey there! Is it fall yet in your parts? It's still pretty warm in San Diego, hence why I am still wearing sleeveless blouses such as the one in today's post. I am definitely ready to trade in shorts and sandals for sweaters and boots, but that most likely isn't going to happen here for a few more weeks. Oh well, patience is a virtue and all that. Plus, once the temperature does finally drop it'll make it that much sweeter!

White lace sleeveless blouse: Old Navy

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GUESS light wash ripped hem straight leg jeans (also seen here, here & here): Macy's

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These are pants I've had for years that are meant to be worn as cuffed boyfriend jeans, but I simply unrolled them, and VOILA - they are "on-trend" (blech, that term is cringe-worthy) frayed hem jeans!

Leopard print d'Orsay flats (also seen here, here & here): American Eagle

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Urban Expressions vegan turquoise weaved crossbody bag (also seen here, here & here): DSW

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Gold hoop earrings: c/o Happiness Boutique

See another of my favorite pair of earrings from Happiness Boutique here.

(And remember: LunaVida readers get 10% off through 9/15 with promo code "lunavidablog" for orders over 19 euros!)

Gold cuff bracelet (also seen here): Old Navy

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Gold stretch bracelet (also seen here, here & here): Target

How do you feel about wearing white after Labor Day? It seems like no one cares whether you do nowadays, which is good for me because this lady loves white year-round!

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I Avoca-Do | Vegan Love Apparel Tank + Denim Shorts + Sneakers

Happiest of Fridays to you! Do you have any fun weekend plans? I think I'm going to persuade Matt that we need to make a trip to Cinnaholic down in Pacific Beach. They have vegan cinnamon rolls. (Aaand, just like that, my mouth is watering only thinking about them.) So yeah, that is going to happen with our without Matt (not that it'll take anything to convince him, let's be honest). And speaking of vegan, in today's post I am featuring one of my new favorite vegan brands, Vegan Love Apparel. Both tank tops featured below are from them, and they are both (vegan) butter-y soft and light. I can't get enough of them - plus, most importantly, they are 100% animal cruelty-free and eco-responsible! Now that is what I'm talkin' about!

"You're the avocado to my toast" graphic tank top (also seen here): c/o Vegan Love Apparel

Cuffed denim shorts (also seen here, here & here): JCPenney

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Keds black and white polka dot sneakers (also seen here): I honestly don't remember...

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Tortoiseshell sunglasses (also seen here, here & here): Jeffrey Bay

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Black skinny belt (also seen here, here & here): J.Crew

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Strawberry print graphic tank top: c/o Vegan Love Apparel
"Make America Kind Again" trucker hat: Farm Animal Refuge I love supporting and featuring vegan brands, companies, and organizations. Farm Animal Refuge is a local rescue for farmed animals located in Campo, California. They are doing amazing work, so please check them out and consider donating to help their lifesaving cause!
Neon yellow crossbody bag (also seen here, here & here): Target [similar]


On a totally different note - to everyone who is in the path of Hurricane Irma, I am sending out all the good juju that you are all kept safe and dry. Florida was my home for over 6 years and I have many loved ones who still live there... I'm worried about you all but trying to stay positive. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help you guys!

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Somethin' Up My Sleeve | Bomber Jacket + Tank + Ripped Jeans + Stacked Heels

Welcome to the unofficial first day of fall! Thankfully, San Diego kinda sorta followed the autumn bandwagon, because up until today we'd been in a heatwave for the past week or so (the first of the entire season, so I'm definitely not complaining). Today the temp went back down under 80 degrees - and this morning it was even Foggy Chillyville, which made my basic heart flutter. Matt and I took a long stroll around our neighborhood, grabbed a latte and a breakfast burrito at one of our favorite local coffee shops, and enjoyed all the fall feels.
Autumn, we may not be fully to ya yet, but I'm already grateful for these teases of what's to come. 🍂

Black lace-up sleeve bomber jacket: c/o PinkBlush

This little bomber baby is gonna be on repeat alllllllll fall.

White asymmetrical tank crop top (also seen here): Marshalls

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Light wash skinny jeans (also seen here, here & here): Target

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Black open-toe stacked heel ankle boots (also seen here): Target

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Silver wire and black spike necklace (also seen here, here & here): c/o C. Alexandria By Hand

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What autumnal activities are you most looking forward to doing? I can't wait to take a road trip to Julian to hike with the leaves changing all around us, eat all the pumpkin goodies, and decorate our new home for Halloween... aaaaaand all the other stuff that everyone has labeled "basic." 💁

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Empowered Women Empower Women | Graphic Tee + Denim Shorts + Slides

Happy September! I gotta say, I am feeling extra fortunate these days. This is because the past two weekends were spent with some of my very best buds. Two weeks ago my BFF from college came to visit me in San Diego and then last weekend was spent in Newport Beach on a staycation with my best friend since 6th grade. Whenever I spend Q.T. with my longtime gal pals, I am always reminded just how important female friendship is. I have been lucky to be surrounded by intelligent, funny, motivated, and loving ladies from the day I was born and onward. My two sisters and I were raised by our mother, who was a single mom for many years and made sure we grew up knowing that girls can do whatever we put our minds to. This life lesson is made even stronger when women collectively boost each other up, rather than tear each other down. It's so exciting to see this teamwork happening more and more nowadays, because "Empowered women empower women" after all. And when women work together, we all succeed.
Here's to the Lady Loves in all of our lives!

Blush pink "Empowered Women Empower Women" oversized graphic tee: c/o Style Lately

This t-shirt is SO comfy. It's on a different level of softness and I pretty much never want to take it off.

(Plus, the message is something I hope we can all get behind. 💪)

Light wash cutoff jean shorts (also seen here, here & here): Old Navy

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Black and white printed slide sandals (also seen here & here): Target

Wide-brimmed straw sun hat with black ribbon detail (also seen here, here & here): Target

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Black crossbody bag (also seen here, here & here): Target

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Hammered silver cuff bracelet (also seen here, here & here): Souvenir from Santorini, Greece

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Who are your female role models? If you know them personally, you should consider telling them that they inspire you today :)
Wishing you all a fun long weekend!

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How To Have A Successful Long-Term Relationship

It's time. The time is now. There's no better time than the present. And all other versions of that sentence.
Over the past 4.5+ years since I began this blog, I've had like, a crap ton of two whole people ask me "Allie, how do you do it? How do you manage to have a successful long-term relationship in this day and age?" My answer full of sage wisdom? "You just do, I guess."

But other than just being one minuscule part of an LTR (that's trendy shorthand for "long-term relationship" if you're a little slower on the slang pickup) there are some steps you can certainly take to ensure you have a thriving nearly 10 years, non-marriage relationship like Matt and myself. (Over a half a decade of living together, no expensive sparkly ring, and no huge celebration of your love with friends and family... ah, just what everyone dreams of as a kid, right?) So since I am obviously a wealth of knowledge out of ideas for what to write today I present to you: 7 Ways To Have a Successful Long-Term Relationship in 2017.

1. Pretend to hear everything your partner says

I have bad hearing. Not so bad that I could ever justify spending thousands of dollars on a hearing aid, but it's far from good. This annoys Matt. (Yes, he would admit that he obviously has the same amount of patience as a saint.). I'm constantly saying "Huh?" and "Wait. What did you say?" and "I did not hear what you said, but cool." You know what response works best for when you can't hear well, though? "Ha ha ha ha ha haaa. Totally." Everyone wins when you think people think you're funny, right?

2. Lower your expectations

I'm kidding, of course. But do you remember "the courting stage" which, if done correctly, is then followed by "the honeymoon phase"? Those were the days, eh? Back when a date was planned down to the music in the car on the way (seriously, for our first date during our freshman year of college Matt borrowed his roommate's car, and when I got in, he had burned a CD -- that tidbit ages us -- of my favorite John Mayer and Maroon 5 songs). Ah, sweet romance. Now we go on a drive-thru run and he automatically asks the cashier "Is the ___ still vegan?" without me asking him to do so, and I'm all "HEART EYES FOR MY MAN!!!!!!!" But the reality is I actually prefer these later years than the earlier ones. For real - I love our simple nights of trying new plant-based food, Netflix binges, and cuddling up with our pets. It fits our lifestyle preferences better than forcing ourselves to go out to parties and whatnot just because we assume that's what the other one wants to do.

 3. Do not forget important dates

You may assume I am just talking about anniversaries and birthdays on this one. Which I am. Those two VID (Very Important Dates) are exactly what I am talking about. Don't forget them. Ever. Plain and simple. In all honesty, there is almost no valid excuse for forgetting them these days, now with the invention of calendar reminders on our phones and the such. The only reason I see a partner getting out of this one is if a medical doctor writes a note saying their patient suffered from short-term amnesia. Even then, you've still got a battle on your hands.

 4. Don't stop dating each other

This one has been said in almost every similar article published on this topic. It still holds true, though. It really is vital to make sure you continue to keep up with "going out" with your partner. This doesn't mean you have to go to a 5-star restaurant every week; however, even making seemingly ordinary nights in at home more special will go a long way. Too tired/broke/over it in general to go out in public? I feel ya, I too am an old soul at heart. So is my boyfriend. Therefore, we personally enjoy making dinner at home, cocktails in hand, with Frank Sinatra playing in the background, and maybe playing a game while we eat. It's a fun -- and inexpensive! -- date night for the both of us. (Check out this post for a list of more affordable date ideas!)

 5. Think long and hard about having kids

[Insert wide-eyed red-faced emoji, because this is a touchy subject 😳] I'm just going to come out and say it: Make sure you truly want kids for THE REST OF YOUR LIFETIME before you have them. This is harsh, sure. Many of us grew up with our own family members telling us "Well, when you are an adult and have kids of your own..." It's ingrained in so many cultures that that is what we are meant to do as soon as we are of a responsible "grown" age. That is simply not true for everyone. Matt and I, for example, both agree that we do not want to be parents of humans. Ever. Like, ever, ever. (We do want to be pet parents for ever and always, because they are furry, sweet, and all that is love.) I sincerely believe that if Matt and I became parents one (or, more likely, both) of us would become permanently irritable since neither one of us are meant to be a mom or a dad. If you are both the type who were put on this planet to have children, then awesome - that may be a key to your long and healthy relationship! (It's just not the case for our coupledom in particular.)

6. Find common interests that are potentially lifelong

Matt and I do not agree on everything. Actually, there are plenty of things we don't agree upon. An example, you ask? He loves talking about mixed martial arts. I don't - like, not even a little bit. It's hard for me to even feign interest for more than a few minutes. (The same can be said for him having to listen to my drone on about my admiration of fashion.) A few things we have pretty much always agreed upon? A mutual obsession with Harry Potter, a need to travel the world as much as possible, a deep love for animals and their welfare, most politics, and a non-fear of moving to new places. These may not be topics that we initially jumped right into when we began dating back in 2007, but over time we opened up to each other more and shared our thoughts. Thankfully, quite a few of these common interests are lifelong loves and passions that we can always discuss.

7. Don't lose track of who you are as individuals

As I mentioned in #6, having some interests in common is vital, of course. For some couples, it may be of utmost importance that they are both affiliated with the same political party. For other couples, disagreeing on politics may be one of the reasons for the spark in their conversations with each other. While Matt and I do agree on a lot of topics, there are plenty that we don't. And I think that, although we do listen to each other's opinions (as respectfully as we can muster... heh), the fact that we don't have 100% the same mind is good for us. It keeps things from getting stale because, let's be honest, how boring would it be to date someone who has the exact same mind as you? Having your own opinions, passions, interests, and thoughts, in general, helps keep you both engaged in who you are as individuals, even when you are a part of a couple. Plus, it's nice to be able to challenge each other from time to time while still knowing that you are on the same team at the end of the day.

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There ya have it. A small collection of my thoughts on romantic relationships, written as a 28-year-old who doesn't really have a lifetime of experience to go off of. So really, go ask your grandparents or your neighbors who have been together for 60 years. They know better than I do. 😉

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What relationship advice has been most valuable for you?

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